Fail Club || Saul
– Jealousy is the fear of losing something you believe should be yours.
– Envy – is the resentment you feel when someone else has something you want.
– Jealousy fears losing what you have.
Envy resents what someone else has.
– PROVERBS 27:4 Anger is cruel and fury overwhelming, but who can stand before jealousy?
– 1. Insecurities pave the way for Jealousy
– 1 Samuel 10:20-22
– 1 Samuel 13:8-14
– 2. Comparison is fuel for the jealous fire.
– 1 Samuel 18:6-9
– James 3:16 — “Where jealousy and selfish ambition exist, there will be disorder and every vile practice.”
– 3. Jealousy Distorts Relationships and Makes Enemies Out of Allies
– For us Men: Jealousy can warp how you view: A co-worker you perceive as a threat, A brother at church who is growing spiritually, A man whose gifts overshadow yours , A friend whose success exposes your insecurity.
– Proverbs 14:30 — “A tranquil heart gives life… but envy makes the bones rot.”
– 4. Jealousy Ultimately Destroys the Man Who Holds It
– Saul never repents fully.
– His last years are marked by paranoia, rage, spiritual darkness, and isolation.
– 1 Samuel 28 — He inquires of a medium because God no longer speaks to him.
– Jealousy, left unchecked, leads to:
Emotional burnout , Broken relationships , Spiritual coldness , Loss of peace , Missed God-given calling.
– Jesus: The Anti-Saul — The Model of Secure, Selfless Leadership
– Why Jesus Is the Cure for Male Jealousy?
– Jesus gives us identity that cannot be taken. Jealousy grows where identity is fragile. Jesus anchors a man’s worth in something unshakeable.
– Jesus removes the need for comparison. You don’t have to be better than other men—only faithful to Him.
– Jesus models secure leadership. Because He is secure in His Father’s love, He can empower others instead of competing with them.
– Jesus frees men to celebrate, not compete. In Christ, someone else’s success is not your loss—it’s God’s win.
– Jesus gives grace for failure. Saul spirals because he can’t face his own inadequacy. Jesus heals the insecure places that jealousy feeds on.
Saul shows us what happens when fear and Jealousy rules a man’s heart.
Jesus shows us what happens when the Father’s love rules a man’s heart.